I Am Enough

5 T H I N G S T O T R Y W H E N Y O U

D O N ’ T F E E L “ G O O D E N O U G H ”

Do you look outside of yourself to feel better, and get a sense of “worthiness” or

belonging?

Do you ever think “If I just looked better/make more money/have a bigger house/lose

weight/drive a nicer car, I would be happier and feel good enough?”We live in a society that places value on appearance, material items, how much

money we make and the cars we drive.

We look outside of ourselves for worth and value, and the problem is, this truly is a black

hole and a moving target. It ends up being an empty well that never gets filled up.

Everyone wants to feel like we matter, and we are loved and important.

That’s why worthiness does not come from outside of you. It is an inside job.

If we spent more time looking deeper within, we can start to explore the blocks preventing

us from feeling worthy.

Are you ready to dig deeper?

Below are a few steps to begin working on stepping more into feeling better about

who you are.

1. Notice your pattern. What are you doing to gain worthiness? Are you placing a

high value on external things or your image? Awareness is the first step to

changing it. We can’t change what we don’t see.

2. Identify your negative beliefs. What are the beliefs you have about yourself? “I

am not good enough,” “I am stupid,” “I am ugly,” and “I am a failure,” are all

common. These are statements that keep you from believing you are worthy. They

keep you stuck. However, when we identify them, we can begin to change them.

3. Change your self-talk. This truly does make a difference. Start telling yourself, “I

am smart. I am beautiful. I am worthy. I matter.” No one else is going to do this for

us. We are our own worst enemy sometimes. We treat ourselves like dirt, which

brings us down. We need to be lifting ourselves up.

4. Create meaningful connections. Research shows that when we have meaningful

connections (even just one), then we feel more valued, loved and worthy. Step out

of your comfort zone to reach out and make deeper conversations with others. Get

curious about who they are and what they feel passionate about.5. Ask for help and support. Many of us learned growing up that it is weak to ask

for help. It’s actually the opposite. It represents strength and courage. A support

network is essential to healing and growth. It starts by reaching out. You are worth

it!

Need some help working through these beliefs?

Kelly-Johnston Counseling is here to help when you are ready to take the first step on

your healing journey.

May you be blessed today

Jaye Kelly-Johnston